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10 things that make being a father great.

10 things that make being a father great.

With Father’s Day approaching, I love to reflect on what makes fatherhood really special. For, it is a calling in my life that I fully embrace.

Over the years, I always knew I would have kids. However, I’ve had lingering anxious thoughts that I would screw things up as a father. It’s like I expected to be a deadbeat dad, a workaholic, or just plain suck at being father.

I was forever transformed the first time I held my baby though. I knew I was destined to enjoy fatherhood and try to provide the best upbringing for my children.

A son and a daughter later and things are going great. Sure, my kids are picky eaters, don’t listen to us, are messy, and all around are time consuming. However, I wouldn’t trade my situation or trade them any day. They are my world.

Here are 10 reasons that make being a father great:

  1. Having a shadow that is a living, breathing reflection of me. Hopefully my son will reflect the better side of me.
  2. Coming home and hearing my kids call for me… “Dad!? Dad!? Dad!” My wife always makes me happy when I come home, but she doesn’t light-up like my kids light-up.
  3. Learning to love animals and the various animal sounds. What noise does a giraffe make anyway? Hell if I know. Seeing my son play with our dog is so fulfilling.
  4. Re-experiencing the simple things of life again. I.e. Rain, swimming, slides, swings, ice cream, throwing rocks, climbing stairs, and so many other simple things that my kids are fascinated by.
  5. Getting excited about my kids’ small growth indicators as time goes by. I.e. My kids rolling over, crawling, walking, words, food, playing with others, hugs, etc.
  6. Engaging in sports again. Sports shouldn’t be about just loving to compete. Joy comes when your embrace everything about the sport. I have enjoyed learning the basics with my kids, buying equipment, going to games, following sports stars, wearing memorabilia, collecting items, and other ways to engage in the sport.
  7. Experiencing sounds again. My son gets an excited look on his face when a motorcycle or loud exhaust vehicle drives by. I now recognize these sounds more too because I know it is something my son loves.
  8. Napping is a luxury. I love naps more than ever… If I ever actually get around to one… I’m just glad when the get good naps.
  9. Vacationing and traveling has a greater meaning. I get excited to show my kids fun places. Sharing travel experiences increases the excitement for the destination and impacts my ability to better remember the good times.
  10. Seeing my kids succeeding in life. Sometimes the success is just witnessing them figure out a toy, finding a new friend, eating a certain food, saying a sentence, overcoming a trial, or just getting up and smiling when they fall down. It’s not that they only succeed, but that they overcome adversity.

What do you value in your role as a father or mother? What would you add to my list of the joys of fatherhood? I’d love to hear.

It sounds cliche, but one of my favorite “Dad shows” is Family Man with Nicholas Cage and Tea Leoni. It makes me realize that even though I am not rich, I can still be an amazing father.

Fatherhood is one of the most important things we can do and is also the most rewarding. I want to be surrounded by my loved ones when I pass away instead of feeling remorse over things I don’t do while my kids were little.

I hope you have a great Father’s Day!

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The right amount of jerk.

The right amount of jerk.

 

What is the right amount of jerk? And will that amount of jerk help you get farther in life? The jerks always seem to get the girls and raises at work.

We aren’t born with jerk tendencies. Being a jerk is a learned behavior that stems either from our upbringing or other life experiences. We ultimately decide how much jerk we want to be.

In life, if you are a nice person then you’re going to get walked on. Being a huge jerk isn’t much better because no one will listen to your mean rhetoric.

So, what is the right amount of jerk? Even though most of us don’t like to admit it, we all like a little jerkiness or snarkiness from our friends, family, and partners.

Benefits of being a jerk

Here are a few specific instances when being a jerk can help you. With dating, the right amount of jerk can move you from the “friend zone” to the datable zone. At work, the right amount of jerk can mean the difference between getting or not getting a raise.

Among your family, you won’t be the all-time babysitter and asked to give up all your nights off to look after nieces and nephews.

Among friends, you won’t have to drive all the time, host all the time or be the one to pick up the check.

While traveling, tourist salespeople won’t sell you on packages, upgrades or slip in extra charges.

While at the mechanic shop, they won’t charge you for unnecessary items or convince you to do more preventative maintenance.

With door to door salespeople, they will know you are serious when you say “no.”

On Black Friday or otherwise in shopping line, people are less likely to butt ahead if the see someone that is or might be a jerk. They want the nice people to cave to their cut in line.

There are benefits when you are the right amount of jerk. Be a huge jerk an all those benefits go away.

Do you listen to jerks more often than to nice people?

People that are ultra nice make me crawl in my skin. I get a sick feeling in my stomach when someone is overly complimentary. And it makes me question a person’s trustworthiness if they can’t admit to a shitty situation for what it really is.

In result, I probably trust ultra nice people less than jerks. Jerks rarely filter what comes out of their mouths. Rather than sugarcoating something, they tell it how it is.

Admittedly, some jerks mislead and bully others with their aggressive attitudes. For, some people are just jerks whether they’re trustworthy or not.

This advocate for jerkiness is making me sound like a pessimist, but I’m really not. I love people that build me and can be positive despite a rough situation.

However, positive people sometimes need to get real and vent sometimes too. A person that always wears rose-colored lenses is out of touch and will have a hard time relating to people. As long as you can get real every once and while, people will trust you.

We all need more people around us that aren’t afraid to call us out sometimes. Surrounding yourself with yes people that don’t contradict you occasionally can lead to mediocrity and groupthink (don’t think it only happens in corporations).

So, next time you have the desire to be the “nice person” and not help someone out with your opinion, think about the benefits of being the right amount of jerk.

People will respect you more when they know you are speaking the truth, even if you may come across as a jerk.

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I am a drug dealer for rats.

I am a drug dealer for rats.

Truly, I get too much satisfaction from giving drugs to my neighbor’s rats.

No, I’m not referring to my neighbor’s kids as rats. They’re not my favorite neighbor kids, but they aren’t rats. They are more of the “street urchin” type.

When I see signs of rats around my property, I revert back to when I was a little kid battling rodents our country property. Taking them out became more of a game than a chore. I would feed them cocktails and poison mixtures to keep them from infesting our barns.

Even today, I lock into strategy and attack mode when battling rats. I get so focused on taking out the rats that my wife thinks it is an obsession. She may be right. For, sometimes I wonder if I’ll miss the rats living next door when I fully obliterate them. Haha

In general, I use the black Tomcat box with their baiting cubes. This allows me to bait them without harming my son, Boston Terrier dog, and other birds that frequent my yard.

If the trap has been dormant for long, I’ll lace the cubes with peanut butter to draw them in. Bam! It worked and I had a dead rat body for evidence.

The other night I mixed up a poison cocktail of peanut butter, banana and Tomcat poison cubes. I’m just waiting for a hungry rat to think he’s getting an easy meal, not knowing he will actually be my next victim.

I also have an electrically charged trap that shocks them to death when they enter. This is reserved for inside my house so they aren’t poisoned and dying in a remote area and stink up my living space. Bam!

What is the source of rats on my property?

My neighbor’s have a 30 x 30 space that WAS basically a big junk pile. The infestation of rats was getting so bad that I was starting to see them in the daytime getting food! There were multiple tunnels and layers, basically a rat hotel.

I even killed a rat with a shovel that wouldn’t leave my dog alone. Whack! I was pretty proud of that hand to hand combat kill.

Because of the high number of rats last summer, I was serving up pounds of poison and they were eating it up. I was basically functioning as the rats’ Drug Lord… Except I wasn’t handing out marijuana or crack. I was a dealing a drug set on killing their clan.

I’m going to keep mixing my deadly cocktails and feeding as many rats that will eat it up. My wife is right. What will I do once the rats go away?

Do you have the same kind of obsession with defeating rats or rodents? Or do you have another hunt you can’t get enough of?

Do you have neighbor’s you don’t really like either?

Update: My killing campaign changed when I called the Utah Health Department. The infestation has lessened since then. I will start another battle… weeds are next!

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10 struggles of being a project manager

10 struggles of being a project manager

Being a project manager is not just a job, it is a disease. For, your project management skills aren’t left at the office. You take the obsessive compulsive planning (OCP) home with you and it becomes a fun sucker of those around you.

Some of my friends and family members appreciate that I project manage my personal activities but some definitely hate it. Who else is going to plan and help the family go round!?

Here are the 10 struggles of being a project manager for your personal life:

  1. You become way too familiar with herding cats… You know your cats’ tricks because you spend all day trying to control spacey copywriters and designers.
  2. You want to assign timelines to your relationships. Ambiguity is not your strength.
  3. You rethink processes all around you. You even theorize how your waiter could be more efficient. If he just would grab water on his every 3rd trip from the kitchen then my glass would consistently be full.
  4. You purchase apps or software that keeps your life running like clockwork. Budget apps, traffic apps, exercise apps, diet apps, etc. These apps make up the project management software of your life.
  5. You start seeing traffic as resource blocks that are clogging the workflow pipeline. If everyone didn’t overload certain lanes then traffic would flow smoothly and we’d all reach our respective deadlines… I mean destinations.
  6. You want a plan of action and to detail the events of a casual night out with your friends. Schedules and locations need to align or you just can’t have fun… Or until the drinks start flowing in your system anyway. Then who cares.
  7. You run your vacations like one week or two week sprints. Being a scrum master or agile manager, you want to make sure the team (or family in this case) is effectively working towards the definition of done with their trip planning and packing tasks.
  8. You send back grocery lists to your spouse like you send back incomplete briefs. How can I do the shopping without a full list that is prioritized and mapped out for minimal time in the grocery store?
  9. Your anger builds when someone thwarts your perfect plan. How do hippies live and just let things happen?
  10. You have contingency plans for everything. Planning something isn’t so simple, you need to think through ten options to make sure the plans don’t fall through.

What are some project manager habits that you use outside of work? Do people appreciate those habits or just think you’re a detail freak?

Do me a favor and hug a project manager if you are not one. Thanks for tuning in.

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Top 50 things I want to teach my daughter

Top 50 things I want to teach my daughter.

 

I just had my first daughter, which makes me a father of two now (boy and a girl). I recently wrote the top 50 things I wanted to teach my son, but wanted to do the same for my daughter. So, here is my list of the top 50 things I want to teach my daughter.

Preface:

Writing the list, I was shocked about some of the things I wanted to teach my daughter. I tried to limit filtering by writing down what I truly thought instead of modifying (or watering down) the list in order to be politically correct. So, some of you may not agree with my list.

This list revealed that I have a strong traditional side. I’ve never considered myself liberal or conservative, but more of a moderate. However, when it came to my daughter, I became a protective and ruffled ol’ papa-bear.

All in all, I want to encourage my daughter to explore and be curious in order to find herself. This will hopefully lead her to build a life of happiness and not accept inequality (regardless of gender, race, roles and/or life duties chosen) or cave to societal pressures. Let me know what you think of my list:

Here are the top 50 things I want to teach my daughter:

  1. Don’t keep up with the Kardashians.
  2. You determine your worth. Your worth is not based on what others think or say about you.
  3. There is more to life than physical looks. Choose pizza and other things that make you happy.
  4. The media will bombard you about how you should look and act. Tune them out and find your own style. It’s exhausting to always be “on trend.”
  5. You are not your weight. Maintain healthy weight to ward off illnesses, diseases, and other ailments associated with weight gain. However, never obsess about your weight because of the societal pressures to be skinny.
  6. You never know what other people are dealing with. Be kind to everyone.
  7. Don’t let social media dictate your life. Share your life and be genuinely interested in others, but learn when to walk away from your SnapChat, Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter.
  8. Don’t hate on someone because they are more popular than you. First of all, your hate and attention to them only makes them more popular.
  9. Look up from your mobile devices often. The world is more exciting and interesting when you are living it. You miss the small things when you are focused on social media or texting friends.
  10. Buy flowers for yourself. Life is better with flowers and color. You don’t need to wait for someone else to buy them.
  11. Don’t judge. Give people the benefit of the doubt until they give you a reason to walk away. You don’t need to be naïve, but you should avoid being judgmental.
  12. Comparing yourself only leads to unhappiness. Focus on what you can do to improve yourself and your situation, not how you measure up to others.
  13. Don’t be afraid to move on from negative people, regardless if they are friends, coworkers, bosses, fellow church goers, and even family. You need positive influences in your life.
  14. Have children. Society is telling us more and more that kids are a nuisance. However, children will be the source of your most rewarding relationships.
  15. Be all about your family. Focusing on family is often unpopular. After all is done in this life though, family is the only thing we will have left. People come and go, jobs come and go, but we will always have our families.
  16. Don’t hold grudges. You are the one that suffers the most when holding a grudge.
  17. Pick your friends carefully. Friends will determine whether you have fun, drama, or loneliness in your early years.
  18. Pick friends that like you for who you are, not because of popularity or other fleeting characteristics.
  19. Choose forever friends and commit to have a lifelong friendship with them. They will help you in hard times and celebrate with you in good times.
  20. Choose a career that you love. Choose something that makes you feel surprised that people will pay you to do it because you enjoy it so much.
  21. Dream big for the future you desire. Whether that desire is a career, motherhood, or world domination.
  22. Set goals and steps to reach your dreams. Don’t just think up what you want. Write them down.
  23. Choose education and self improvement over waiting for the “right one.” Don’t wait to start school or start living because you expect to be married young or taken care of financially in the future.
  24. Don’t settle, but don’t get so picky that you skip living and learning.
  25. Modesty in dress isn’t popular but it is the right choice. Intentions are often derived from the way a person is dressed.
  26. Have religion in your life. Having a reason to hope or believe can lead to greater happiness.
  27. Make a good first impression with everyone you meet. You never know what opportunities you might miss out on by botching first impressions.
  28. With that said about first impressions, don’t be fake with your appearance or personality. Strive to be your best and people will want to be around you.
  29. Never let anyone tell you that you are less than them. We are all equals.
  30. Don’t go to all your high school dances with the same guy. No one wants to see the same person over and over in pictures when they’re older.
  31. Be careful about dating older guys. Many prey on younger girls because they may have more pliable wills. Look for someone that considers you an equal and respects others.
  32. A perfect selfie is often taken on the first picture because it is authentic. Too much positioning, filtering, and otherwise altering is just for show.
  33. Choose role models that are true examples, not just because they are popular celebrities. Role models shouldn’t be nationally visible figures unless they are truly amazing.
  34. It is not shameful or embarrassing to admit you have depression, anxieties or other ailments. You need to be honest about them in order to treat them and recover.
  35. Be self-reliant, but know your limits. Being overwhelmed never benefited anyone.
  36. Asking for help is not the same as asking for a handout. Sometimes letting someone help is letting them show their love.
  37. Choose a sport. Having fun while getting exercise will be a valuable asset later in life.
  38. Learn how to compete gracefully. Competition fuels growth and ensure you will not be settling in life.
  39. You don’t need to be a ditzy girl to attract a guy. Or don’t cheat for anyone to gain someone’s love and acceptance.
  40. Travel. Experiences are more valuable than clothes and shoes you can buy.
  41. Choose magnets, stickers, mugs or at least one small tchotchke (preferably the same type of tchotchke each time) to bring home from a vacation. They’ll bring back fun memories.
  42. Don’t worry about love early on. It will come in time. Spending too much time on love early impedes progress because it can be a distraction. Too much focus on love in high school can lead to drama, unnecessary heartache and even trouble.
  43. Know your love language(s). You will better understand why you feel loved by some and not as much by others.
  44. Know your partner’s love language. Use it often to make sure they know they are loved. Only showing love in the same way you feel love does not always translate well.
  45. Focus on improving yourself instead of expecting others to change.
  46. Your wedding will be perfect, don’t over stress.
  47. Remember that Bridezilla is a negative term. Some consider it as a badge of honor.
  48. Forgive fast and often.
  49. Always keep your mother and siblings close and consider them your best friends.
  50. Serve or otherwise show love to your family and friends. Words can be said by anyone, but showing love by doing is best.

Thanks for tuning into my list of 50 things I want to teach my daughter today! Let me know if you have any that should added to the list. I would love to know what you consider important that I did not include in my list.

Happy Father’s day everyone!

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10 ways you may be annoying others in movies.

10 ways to annoy someone during movies or TV shows.

Movies can be great mediums that help you disconnect from reality for a bit… However, this is only achievable if you and others around you allow it. Unfortunately, many fellow movie-goers in theaters can be extremely annoying during films.

Does it make it worse or better to know that these movie-goers likely don’t know how bad they are really are? This list may shed some light on our movie-watching behaviors to determine if you are the annoying person in the theater.

Etiquette in movies is important!

Here are the top 10 ways you can annoy (on purpose or not on purpose) someone during movies:

  1. Use a mobile device or anything that projects light a the dark theater. There’s nothing like being distracted at a crucial moment in the film by someone checking Instagram, Facebook, or sending a SnapChat.
  2. Talk during the movie. It is especially enjoyable when someone theorizes out loud about the plot or film’s conclusion.
  3. Handle plastic candy packages carelessly. Movie theaters sell candy in a box for a reason. In addition, if you have plastic candy wrappers then we all know you snuck in candy.
  4. Chew loudly, constantly, or otherwise make gross food noises. Nom nom.
  5. Clap, cheer, or otherwise celebrate during the film. Some may not agree that this is annoying but I think it is. It’s distracting and often overshadows dialogue during that time.
  6. Give away important parts of the storyline or indicate a spoiler is approaching (whether something is or isn’t really going to occur).
  7. Get distracted and ask your neighbor to catch you up on the details you missed. I unfortunately do this to my wife with movies and TV shows at home (sorry!). However, I know not to do it during movies in the theater.
  8. Say “Pssh,” “Yeah right,” “Whatever,” or make other sarcastic noises during parts of the film. Although the scene may be horrible, keep it yourself and blog about it later.
  9. Fidget, squirm, or move excessively. To make it worse, wear a plastic gym suit or squeaky shoes to amplify the noise.
  10. Get up and cross in front of the screen a few times throughout the movie, bumping into everyone on your row.

What behaviors annoy you during movies and TV shows? Don’t think that you are immune to having an annoying behavior. We can decide today to be mindful of others and strive to not annoy those sitting around us. Do it!

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Why breastfeeding in public is weird.

Why I think breastfeeding is weird.

It’s not weird that breastfeeding is done in public or whether a mother is feeding exposed vs. covered.

Breastfeeding is weird because it contradicts the artificial world we have built for ourselves. I didn’t saw breastfeeding in public is wrong or bad. It’s just startling sometimes. For so so many years we achieved technological leaps to create a world that lets us escape our realities.

Our food is packed with preservatives, it rarely resembles its natural form, and is most likely genetically modified.

Our cars and homes are high tech, our mobile devices rule our lives, and our bodies have become more plastic. Breasts nowadays are more artificial and are about appearance rather than the purpose they were created for.

Among advances for baby items, we have high tech formulas, realistic nipples, and even full-time nannies. A baby can be fully sustained without a mother in our world.

Breastfeeding reminds us that we’re mammals.

So, when you see the ultra-natural act of a baby breastfeeding from her mother among all these artificial advances, it makes you pause.

You pause because breastfeeding is raw and reminds us that we are mammals. No different than the pets we own or the animals that feed their young in the wild.

It’s the act of feeding a baby that can’t forage or find food for himself or herself. I know because my wife is actually breastfeeding our daughter next to me as I type. Our baby is helpless without my wife.

We get ahead of ourselves in today’s world and forget that breastfeeding a baby is the simplest act we perform to sustain life after birth.

My wife just had baby number two and I still think breastfeeding is weird. Breasts that only a few months ago were seen as sexual now are conduits of the milk that sustains my baby. It’s a hard concept to get used to for both men and women raised in this artificial-obsessed generation.

It’s not about seeing a halfway bare chest.

Whenever I see a side by side comparisons of a woman’s low neckline vs a woman breastfeeding, I agree that it is odd that I feel less weird when breasts are displayed sexually rather than with a child latched on.

I, like most men, have been conditioned that seeing a child feed from a breast is only a secondary reason for them existing. No mistaking though that breastfeeding is truly the first reason. Only over time have we become more infatuated with the sexuality of breasts.

Will I ever get over this weirdness? Probably not. Women only spend a very small percentage of their life breastfeeding. So, that means that the majority of a breast’s time on earth will serve as objects of sexuality.

Do I support women breastfeeding in public? Sure – do what you want and your child needs to eat. There aren’t too many options for a mother that needs to feed a baby every few hours. However, the rawness of the act will still be weird to me in our artificial world.

What are your thoughts on breastfeeding in general (based on if you are a man or woman)? What opinions do you have about it being done in public vs seeing a woman wearing a revealing top in ads and on the street?

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10 unglamorous facts about being a graphic designer.

10 unglamorous facts about being a graphic designer.

For the last few decades, the graphic designer profession has been high on the career lists of most of the younger generations. Universities have been bolstering graphic design programs and specialty schools have popped up everywhere. Despite the enthusiasm for the profession, is graphic design really the exciting career that many perceive it to be?

These 10 facts about being a graphic designer may surprise many, but not graphic designers. They know the truth and have lived in the trenches.

Here are 10 unglamorous facts about being a graphic designer :

  1. You will be asked by family and friends to “help” them on a christmas card, flyer or other visual graphic. All for free, of course.
  2. You may be stuck making the same type of asset with the same imagery over and over. Email banners, ad banners, email signature banners… sooooo monotonous. I’m going to be pissed the next time I hear “Make it look like Apple’s marketing.”
  3. You will be expected to visually put together someone else’s vision, despite minimal instructions. They want you to create magic, but only pay you pennies.
  4. Working with indecisive stakeholders can be hell. Even if you deliver what was “requested,” they will almost certainly want changes.
  5. Some stakeholders change things just to change things. These people derive importance by how much feedback they give. Even if they don’t really need a change, they’ll mark up your comp anyway and make you think like you did a bad job.
  6. Any fool that has Photoshop, Adobe Illustrator or other design software thinks they’re a designer. It’s the same with any fool with a camera thinking they’re a photographer.
  7. You may be yelled at or embarrassed publicly. It’s easier for people to criticize than to give praise. Execs are always wanting to make an example of what not to do in marketing. It’s easier for people to criticize than to give praise.
  8. Graphic designers have become a dime a dozen. You really need to do something fantastic nowadays to stick out. Universities, design schools and trade schools are pumping out designers every semester. The competition continues to grow for graphic designer jobs.
  9. Extreme, almost unhealthy attention to detail is a necessity. You can’t miss. Your boss’ boss will see the smallest misstep in your design.
  10. You may be asked to redo your work multiple of times. Hope you have a good grasp on version control.

Did I miss any fun facts about the graphic designer career? These are definitely just the sarcastic aspects of the graphic designer field. For, I realize there are many great characteristics of the design career field. Not many people can claim to make money from their art!

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Aggressive dog breeds – real or a category made up by pooch haters?

Aggressive dog breeds – real or a category made up by pooch haters?

 

Are aggressive dogs breeds a real thing or is it just a category made up by dog haters or a category made up by insurance companies to increase premiums?

I am a previous employee of an insurance company that handled bite insurance and other pet claims. For several years I had an inside look on which breeds actually had claims and issues with aggression.

Before I confirm which breeds have frequent issues, I want assure you that I am dog lover. I’ve grown up with Doberman Pinschers all my life and even have a dog of my own now.

Despite my love for dogs, even owning one considered an aggressive breed, I know that it is true that some dog breeds are more susceptible to aggression over others.

Not the size of the dog, it’s the size of the damage.

Although the list consists of large dogs, aggression really doesn’t have to do with the size of the dog, per se. For, chihuahuas are often very aggressive. However, the size of damage (bites, cuts, scrapes, death rate, etc.) is determined by the size of the dog.

So most the time, bite numbers are skewed toward larger dogs because they do a lot of damage when they attack. That’s what people want to know, right? What is likelihood of this dog killing me, my children or someone around me?

It turns out, aggressive breeds are labeled as such because the probabilities of biting, attacking, causing damage, and enacting other aggressive behavior match up with published statistics. Statistics may be skewed but they do tell a picture of which breeds cause the most damage.

There is a good reason that municipalities require bite insurance for certain types of breeds (see the top ten aggressive breeds I have found below). However, these laws aren’t just about the breed. The laws that require liability insurance have to do with the owners just as much as the breed. There is often an owner profile for those that purchase, breed, and raise aggressive dogs.

Some of you may be mad about me referring to certain breeds as aggressive or vicious dogs. Over the years selling pet insurance, we had several complaints from pitbull owners (specifically) and other dog advocates about solidifying the term “aggressive” when speaking about dogs. I get it – once a breed is labeled aggressive, it is hard to shake the title.

Here are the top breeds that received the most claims and that required liability insurance. These breeds had bites or were required to have insurance due to state and local government citations.

Top 10 aggressive dog breeds that needed bite insurance:

  1. Pit bull terriers
  2. Rottweilers
  3. German Shepherds
  4. Akitas
  5. Chows
  6. Huskies
  7. Bullmastiff’s
  8. Chihuahuas
  9. Doberman Pinschers
  10. Great Danes

What are your thoughts about the labeling of aggressive dog breeds? Do the probabilities of harm warrant requiring liability insurance or banning certain breeds altogether in areas?

Or is everyone freaking out too much about breeds because it is actually the type of owners that raise aggressive animals?

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Guide to keeping or turning in lost money. Is it stealing?

Guide to keeping or turning in lost money

 

Where does all the lost money go anyway? Does the lost and found money go to the store’s till? An employee’s pocket? Sits in lost and found forever? Is the unclaimed money donated after a certain amount of time? Who knows.

Most of us have been in this situation before. You’re walking to or from a store and see some cash on the ground. Do you pick it up and keep it or do you take it to the store’s lost and found?

Tough question, but I have listed some criteria that may help make up your mind.

Guide to keeping or turning in lost money

When it should be ok to keep (assuming ALL the following apply):

  • Dollar bill is $5 or under.
  • No one is around or isn’t walking directly from the area.
  • You believe in “Finders Keepers” or “Possession is nine-tenths of the law.”

When you should ask and turn in the unclaimed money to lost and found (assuming one of these apply):

  • You see someone drop it. There shouldn’t be a question on whether to return this money. Get their attention and pass them the money.
  • Dollar bill is over $5. For, not many people are going to make a huge deal about going back into a store and asking for a lost $5 bill. However, they likely will if it is more money.
  • Someone is or was just walking from the area that you can ask immediately.
  • Someone is looking for “something” whether in their wallet, purse, pockets or on the ground
  • A child is crying nearby.
  • Your conscience considers it stealing to keep lost money even though the likelihood of it making its way back to the original owner is pretty slim.

What do you think? I wrote this because I had a discussion with a friend after I found $5 in a grocery store parking lot. I lived by my lost money guideline. No one was there, no one was walking away from the spot of the money, and it was $5. I kept it.

The conflicted feelings of keeping the lost money made me stop and think if it was right or wrong though. I wondered if the potential guilty feeling about not turning it to the store’s lost and found was legitimate or just something we’ve been conditioned by our elders. Is turning it in every time something that really should be done? Help me answer that.

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