10 things that make being a father great.
With Father’s Day approaching, I love to reflect on what makes fatherhood really special. For, it is a calling in my life that I fully embrace.
Over the years, I always knew I would have kids. However, I’ve had lingering anxious thoughts that I would screw things up as a father. It’s like I expected to be a deadbeat dad, a workaholic, or just plain suck at being father.
I was forever transformed the first time I held my baby though. I knew I was destined to enjoy fatherhood and try to provide the best upbringing for my children.
A son and a daughter later and things are going great. Sure, my kids are picky eaters, don’t listen to us, are messy, and all around are time consuming. However, I wouldn’t trade my situation or trade them any day. They are my world.
Here are 10 reasons that make being a father great:
- Having a shadow that is a living, breathing reflection of me. Hopefully my son will reflect the better side of me.
- Coming home and hearing my kids call for me… “Dad!? Dad!? Dad!” My wife always makes me happy when I come home, but she doesn’t light-up like my kids light-up.
- Learning to love animals and the various animal sounds. What noise does a giraffe make anyway? Hell if I know. Seeing my son play with our dog is so fulfilling.
- Re-experiencing the simple things of life again. I.e. Rain, swimming, slides, swings, ice cream, throwing rocks, climbing stairs, and so many other simple things that my kids are fascinated by.
- Getting excited about my kids’ small growth indicators as time goes by. I.e. My kids rolling over, crawling, walking, words, food, playing with others, hugs, etc.
- Engaging in sports again. Sports shouldn’t be about just loving to compete. Joy comes when your embrace everything about the sport. I have enjoyed learning the basics with my kids, buying equipment, going to games, following sports stars, wearing memorabilia, collecting items, and other ways to engage in the sport.
- Experiencing sounds again. My son gets an excited look on his face when a motorcycle or loud exhaust vehicle drives by. I now recognize these sounds more too because I know it is something my son loves.
- Napping is a luxury. I love naps more than ever… If I ever actually get around to one… I’m just glad when the get good naps.
- Vacationing and traveling has a greater meaning. I get excited to show my kids fun places. Sharing travel experiences increases the excitement for the destination and impacts my ability to better remember the good times.
- Seeing my kids succeeding in life. Sometimes the success is just witnessing them figure out a toy, finding a new friend, eating a certain food, saying a sentence, overcoming a trial, or just getting up and smiling when they fall down. It’s not that they only succeed, but that they overcome adversity.
What do you value in your role as a father or mother? What would you add to my list of the joys of fatherhood? I’d love to hear.
It sounds cliche, but one of my favorite “Dad shows” is Family Man with Nicholas Cage and Tea Leoni. It makes me realize that even though I am not rich, I can still be an amazing father.
Fatherhood is one of the most important things we can do and is also the most rewarding. I want to be surrounded by my loved ones when I pass away instead of feeling remorse over things I don’t do while my kids were little.
I hope you have a great Father’s Day!
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